There is no question that we have all suffered through the “stay at home” precautions that have been in place for, depending on where one lives, over two months. Here, in the greater New York City area, I mark the official start of this period as Friday, March 13, not just because that is a bad day in its own right but because it was that particular day that we received notice that schools would be closed “for the remainder of the month.” Of course, “remainder of the month” is actually to be interpreted as “remainder of the school year (and possibly much longer)” but it was, at least in my somewhat informed view, a necessary step. I say this both as a concerned parent and one with self-concern (read: cancer).
So in the more than 75 days since then, it has been a challenging period of living in close quarters, home-schooling, alternative sleeping arrangements (since my wife is a doctor dealing with her share of coronavirus patients) and relocating my affairs and effects to the guest bathroom, which I have unfortunately realized I now prefer to the one which forms part of the master suite. Luckily for me, there is no end in sight to all of this so I will be able to continue to brush my teeth, occasionally shave (I see no reason to do it regularly these days because, absent an intrusive Zoom call, who is going to see my visage anyway?) and enjoy my new Navage nasal rinse in the relative spaciousness and privacy of my own dual-vanity “facility.” I do worry, however, that we are now just a short step away from Ozzy and Harriet style bedroom accommodations. As a minor consolation, if that does come to pass, I am pretty certain I can claim for my own twin bed Andrew’s Star Wars sheets. They are not a high thread count, but they are awfully cool.
Like many out there, I have basically lost all sense of time. I seem to recall that here, on the penumbra of the epicenter of the pandemic, we have been staying home for roughly two months. Unlike some areas of the country, however, our self-containment looks like it will be continuing for an indeterminate amount of time longer. That is not the case for all of the State of New York, just that area that is referred to by some – but not anyone that actually lives here – as “downstate.” (Essentially, if you are a resident of the Empire State, you either live in the greater NYC area or you don’t, the latter of which is referred to as “upstate.” But in life there is not always a yin for every yang so we of the mass urban sprawl don’t feel the need to define ourselves by not being from somewhere else. Call us elitist if you must.)
And since this state of existence, which is really not much of an existence at all at this point, will be continuing beyond any visible endpoint, I have recently been attempting to occupy myself with trying to remember how it is that I have managed to endure the last eight weeks of doing virtually nothing. This was actually a good exercise, by which I mean one that involved a lot of thinking on my part, as it is surprisingly difficult to remember the mind-numbing minutiae that has occupied me for so long.
Like so many millions of people across the country and around the globe, I find that time is hanging quite heavily these days. I should not complain: As a person with cancer, any amount of time – regardless of its mass – should be viewed by me as a gift. And I am grateful, more or less. But let’s be honest: Now, after what may or may not be more than a months’ worth of self-imposed house-arrest – with the generally positive (although sometimes decidedly negative) co-incarceration of other inmates, namely my sons – I am starting to lose any sense of perspective as well as any semblance of lucidity. Before the remnants of my sanity have escaped – a concept so tantalizingly appealing yet so fraught with danger – I am determined to write down what I can recall about my life over these recent days (or is it weeks?) that has brought me to this undesirable place, which I used to simply call my home. Since there is no end in sight to this experience, I imagine this will be just the first in a series of observations (read: complaints) so please do not consider the following to be an exhaustive list; more is on its way.
With that in mind, I think the appropriate place to begin is that which we need everyday. No, not toilet paper. For whatever reason, we were long on TP before this started. Instead, I am talking about essentially its opposite: food. Notwithstanding the detestable trend of “foodie”-ism, acquiring groceries used to be among the most uninteresting and rote of weekly must-dos. Now, however, acquiring any food item is an exercise in extreme patience – and ultimately disappointment. Because even going to the grocery store with full hazmat suit on is considered somewhat risky, not to mention socially inconsiderate, our household is forced to rely on what seem to be fly-by-night businesses of “personal shoppers” who are compelled to risk their well-being so that we can have a bit of fresh produce. Despite the sacrifices these individuals are making, their employers are clearly not up for the challenge. It is no one’s fault, really, as who expected that none of the 19.5 million New Yorkers would be allowed to go to the supermarket? Certainly not the people of Instacart or Shipt.
Yet even the seemingly simple task of identifying items on a grocery shelf from a list carefully prepared by the ultimate acquiror thereof, requires in our modern age a good deal of attention to detail and, frankly, some intelligence. And, as I have often said, intelligence is not a trait that we find an overabundance of in our world. By way of illustrations, I shall relate the following vignettes:
He Hath Risen: Unfortunately for Jews the world over, the COVID crisis coincided with the holiday of Passover, which some erroneously refer to as the Feast of Unleavened Bread. I say this is in error as anyone who has existed solely on goods made of unleavened products for a full eight days would not think there is anything festive about the experience. Some things are just meant to rise: the sun, Lazarus (so I am told) and, of course, baked goods. But because we cannot eat such lofty goods during this week-plus period, more or less observant Jews restrict themselves to eating only foodstuffs expressly designated with an “Kosher for Passover” imprimatur on them. Yet, to the uninitiated (which is a polite way of saying our gentile shopper), the appearance or absence of that demarcation is a non-event. Consequently, we are now the embarrassed owners of several boxes of matzoh that is explicitly not to be eaten during Passover. If any of you are willing to jeopardize your colonic health for it, please just email me. We will be more than happy to get rid of it and even pay the postage (the USPS needs the business anyway). To be fair to our shopper, I can imagine that she was understandably so fatootsed by having to handle a jar of gefilte fish on our behalf that anything that occurred afterwards was truly not her fault. (If you are not familiar with this Passover “delicacy”, Google an image of it and you will understand. Just don’t do it if already feeling nauseous.)
Half This, Half What?: One of my greatest concerns during this period of quarantine has been that I would run out of coffee. (As a side note, I prefer the term quarantine to “shelter-in-place” because, as a child of the Cold War, the latter term invokes the notion of dusty1950s era bomb shelters, canned meats and very old Russian politburo members.) And because it is not enough that I drink too much coffee, I also imbibe it with half-and-half. Yet our shopper, who apparently is not a particularly close reader nor, worse, a coffee drinker, purchased for us the fat-free version of this coffee condiment. What??? Proper half-and-half is half milk and half cream, which by definition is comprised of essentially nothing other than fat. So fat-free half-and-half makes no sense whatsoever. I think it is also known by the term “skim milk” or, as I call it, whitish water. Whatever it actually is, I think it is probably brought to us by the same people who are plaguing us with non-Kosher for Passover matzoh.
Jumbo: Why do eggs come in so many sizes? Does it depend on the size of the chicken? And how come so few people seem to realize that eggs, despite their seeming uniformity, are in reality anything but? Every recipe in the world (except, annoyingly, those by the Barefoot Contessa) call for large eggs. Not extra-large, not medium and definitely not jumbo. But now we have all of those – except of course for large. If you could use them, I will send them along with the treif matzoh.
The Clock is Ticking: When the time – and, more pointedly, day – finally came for our personal shopper to acquire our goods, she set off in a most industrious and communicative manner. Leaving aside that she was supposed to arrive with our essentials and non-essentials (Goldfish, Milanos, etc.) early in the morning but did not commence her shopping until noon, she was nonetheless trying to be as responsive as possible. Thus, for the ensuing three hours she was regularly texting my poor wife with questions about substitutes, sizes, and so on. Finally, in response to one of these interrogatories, my wife, who is after all a doctor and thus in charge of our collective health, replied: “I hope that, more than three hours into this shopping experience, you have not been wheeling around the milk and other items that need to be refrigerated all of this time.” No response. Unlike my wife, I was not too concerned: I don’t drink milk anyway and as established the ½ & ½ would not be consumed by anyone either. And maybe jumbo eggs are more hardy than mere large ones?
Timing is Everything, and Nothing: Despite the repeated frustrations we experienced with our shopper agents, we were determined to avoid the grocery store. Melissa is already on the front lines working in the hospital, and my cancer argues for a position well in the rear. Yet our last order, which was originally to arrive on Friday, was then postponed until Saturday morning. Then delayed further to Saturday afternoon. Next we heard it would arrive by Saturday evening and, then, in continuance of this unseemly trend, by 9:30 p.m. Saturday night. This was really approaching the line for me as I like to be in my PJs by that time (even in non-quarantine times – I need my rest), not setting up a Clorox-infused detoxification center in my kitchen, which also strangely requires storing boxes of non-perishables in our garage because apparently the novel coronavirus cannot live adjacent to idle automobiles. And yet the provisions still did not arrive. Finally, in disgust (and in my jammies but with a respirator and gloves adorned thereto), I gave up. Melissa then received another message informing us that our order would be coming at the next available time: Sometime between Sunday and Thursday! That was too much for me. I resolved the next day to chance it and go to the store myself. I could not wait until potentially Thursday. We were almost out of gefilte fish!
the regular followers of this blog are undoubtedly aware, I have not written
anything in some time. Although this
lack of expressiveness started some time ago, it has now been subsumed in a
general sense of debilitating awe, amazement and terror about events in which
our world is now awash. Like many of
you, I am sure, I am nearly constantly fighting the urge to see the latest news
and hear the ever-more grim statistics, so many of which are emanating from the
metropolis of which my community forms an integral part of its “greater”
I have watched these events unfold, I have sadly reached an inescapable
conclusion: the challenge we face now is
too great for us to manage. But before
anyone thinks I am making some type of political statement – I am not, as the
current crisis seems to belong to people of all political ideologies from
Communists to Libertarians, Republicans to Democrats, Bernie Bros to the good
people of American Samoa who have an odd affinity for Michael Bloomberg. In fact, the challenge about which I write
today is not even the Corona virus (or COVID-19); why write about something
that we clearly are not able to cope with?
Rather, it is something that this virus has inadvertently revealed and
which may bring ruin to our entire way of life: